Q. -i know i posted this a while ago but my computer wouldnt let me read the replies-
I was in a 4 year relationship with my ex boyfriend until he got arrested 5 years ago. Im 25 & he is 27. He was my first love & when he got locked up i couldn't stop crying. He in a dangerous gang, We have some mutual friends(not the gang ones) and whenever some of my friends go for a night out and he's there with friends i try keep my distance from him but i keep getting the feelings i had for him come back to me. When i leave he follows me out to talk. although i still love him i think i did the right thing. Anyway whenever im dancing he never takes his eyes off me,He gets into my face a lot if i dance with other guys, he grabs my arm if i walk away, he has never once hit me though. My friends are under the impression he knows he screwed up badly and he doesn't want anyone else to have me, that he is obsessed with me and that can be a major problem when i am dancing or with other guys would that be true?. He keeps telling me he wants me back and will never let me go again. If im at a bar or something he will sometimes come over a put his arms around me & try kiss me or whisper in my ear, but i walk away then he will try to make me look him in the eyes and tell him i dont love him, which i cant do.He even now has my name tattooed on the side of his neck. I think im attracted to these kind of men because my father is in jail & he is one of the head men in a Latino Blood Gang. Im starting counseling soon so maybe that will help?!
Please give me some advice if you can, thank you so much
-i know a lot of you are going to attack me but all im looking for is some advice-
I was in a 4 year relationship with my ex boyfriend until he got arrested 5 years ago. Im 25 & he is 27. He was my first love & when he got locked up i couldn't stop crying. He in a dangerous gang, We have some mutual friends(not the gang ones) and whenever some of my friends go for a night out and he's there with friends i try keep my distance from him but i keep getting the feelings i had for him come back to me. When i leave he follows me out to talk. although i still love him i think i did the right thing. Anyway whenever im dancing he never takes his eyes off me,He gets into my face a lot if i dance with other guys, he grabs my arm if i walk away, he has never once hit me though. My friends are under the impression he knows he screwed up badly and he doesn't want anyone else to have me, that he is obsessed with me and that can be a major problem when i am dancing or with other guys would that be true?. He keeps telling me he wants me back and will never let me go again. If im at a bar or something he will sometimes come over a put his arms around me & try kiss me or whisper in my ear, but i walk away then he will try to make me look him in the eyes and tell him i dont love him, which i cant do.He even now has my name tattooed on the side of his neck. I think im attracted to these kind of men because my father is in jail & he is one of the head men in a Latino Blood Gang. Im starting counseling soon so maybe that will help?!
Please give me some advice if you can, thank you so much
-i know a lot of you are going to attack me but all im looking for is some advice-
A. Something about the bad boys that really attract women...I've been there! As hard as it is and it sounds like you already know this, you need to stay as far away from this guy as possible. I understand you have mutual friends but you really need to find other places to hang out where you know he won't be. Sounds like you're out at bars & clubs and if there is drinking involved that just adds to the bad vibes if you're already uncomfortable with him staring at you or following you around. It's easy to feel the old feelings for him when he's around so your new motto should be "out of site, out of mind" in this case.
You really have to think about what kind of future this guy has to offer you. You already know he's in a dangerous gang and that never goes away. What if you were to have kids with him someday? People like him get mixed up in all kinds of bad things and families can get brought into it and you can be caught right in the middle. Consider your relationship with him a lesson learned and find someone who is the complete opposite of this guy. Hopefully counseling will help you talk about the different feelings you're having and you can get over him and move on with your life. But above all else, you need to not see or speak to him. Dating a gang member doesn't make you a bad person, you really can't help who you fall in love with. But spending more time with this guy or going back to him would be a mistake. You have to value yourself enough to realize that you deserve better than him and the quicker you see that the quicker you can get on with your life and find someone who doesn't lead such a dangerous life.
You really have to think about what kind of future this guy has to offer you. You already know he's in a dangerous gang and that never goes away. What if you were to have kids with him someday? People like him get mixed up in all kinds of bad things and families can get brought into it and you can be caught right in the middle. Consider your relationship with him a lesson learned and find someone who is the complete opposite of this guy. Hopefully counseling will help you talk about the different feelings you're having and you can get over him and move on with your life. But above all else, you need to not see or speak to him. Dating a gang member doesn't make you a bad person, you really can't help who you fall in love with. But spending more time with this guy or going back to him would be a mistake. You have to value yourself enough to realize that you deserve better than him and the quicker you see that the quicker you can get on with your life and find someone who doesn't lead such a dangerous life.
Have a Guy or woman ever Tattooed your name on them?
Q. If so how did it make you feel? And is it any woman or men who girlfriend or boyfriend still have an ex name tattooed on them?
A. Yes. Despite my objections someone tattooed my name on their ankle. We broke up a few months later. The weird part is, I saw him last year and that tattoo is still there. We broke up 10 years ago! I have to wonder what the women he's dated since thought out if. A word of caution, folks, only tattoo the names of your kids or your dearly departed on your body.
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