Q. Hello,
Here is a little background info first. We have been married for 10 years and have a home and two small kids. My wife currently has one tattoo on her lower back which she got before we met. When we first began dating, I let her know my honest opinion about tattoos. I told her that I didn't like them because I don't like the idea of something permanent on your skin. I am the kind of guy that gets tired of same image. I like to find a really cool wallpaper for my desktop and then change it a week later because I'm bored by it. That's how I feel about tattoos. There is no tattoo that I could ever get, that I wouldn't eventually be bored of and regret. I like tattoos on other people. Sometimes they are cool and interesting and sometimes they are not.
When we first met and had a discussion on this topic, she indicated that she got her tattoo as a sign of freedom. Personally, I think there are better non-permanent ways to express yourself, but she did that before my time so there wasn't much else to say there. She agreed with me that the tattoo was a bad idea and that she did actually regret it. I asked her if she was ever planning to get another tattoo and she said no. I said good because I didn't like them.
About a week ago, I saw that she was printing tattoo pictures and so I asked her about that. She said that her and her female friend were sorta planning on getting a small ankle tattoo together for my wife's birthday. She said she wanted to get it as a last hurrah because she now in her early 40's and is beginning to feel old. She wanted it to mark this time in her life.
I asked her if she didn't think that that was something that would've been discussed by the both of us. She said no because I knew you would just get mad anyway. That's the part that made me really upset. She was willing to get a tattoo behind my back and expected me to just live with it. I explained to her that part of the original agreement of being together depended on her not getting anymore tattoos. She explained that it is her body and that she can do whatever she wants with it. I tried to explain to her that I'm living this life with her too, and since we share this life, we should share that decision.
After thinking about it for a few days, I told her that we probably needed to go our separate ways. I told her that I never wanted to be a controlling type of guy and I know that she never wanted to feel controlled. However, I know that if she were to get that tattoo, I would truly resent her, and things would get ugly anyway. If I prevented her from getting that tattoo, I know she would resent me.
Well, she was devastated to hear me say that. She doesn't want to lose the house and the family we built together. But I really meant it. She can have all the tattoo's she wants, just not with me in the picture.
Is there a right or wrong here?
2 things....
I don't understand why it has to be something permanent like a tattoo. I could buy her a beautiful anklet! I'm a good guy, I'm not the jealous type, and I let her go out with her friends and she let's me go out with mine as well. However, I draw the line on tattoo's. At some point, she said that I could go with them to get it done. It made me feel sick when she said that.
Second thing, if she knew I couldn't stand tattoo's, why did she get with me? I asked her that question and she told me she thought she would never want another tattoo.
The tattoo means a lot more to me than just the superficial reason. It means disrespect. She's known how passionate I have always felt about them.
I know some people are wondering if I am really willing to throw away the last 10 years... isn't it a fair question to ask if SHE is willing to throw away the last years? Out of respect and love for me, she could find an alternate way to express herself.
I don't understand how I'm a jerk for standing up what I believe in. The day I found out she wanted one, I told her that she was probably going through a mid life and asked her to consider alternatives like jewelry etc. She said no. There was no other way but this tattoo. She put me in an incredibly difficult situation. If she has the right to make these changes to her body, then shouldn't I have the right to leave?
Here is a little background info first. We have been married for 10 years and have a home and two small kids. My wife currently has one tattoo on her lower back which she got before we met. When we first began dating, I let her know my honest opinion about tattoos. I told her that I didn't like them because I don't like the idea of something permanent on your skin. I am the kind of guy that gets tired of same image. I like to find a really cool wallpaper for my desktop and then change it a week later because I'm bored by it. That's how I feel about tattoos. There is no tattoo that I could ever get, that I wouldn't eventually be bored of and regret. I like tattoos on other people. Sometimes they are cool and interesting and sometimes they are not.
When we first met and had a discussion on this topic, she indicated that she got her tattoo as a sign of freedom. Personally, I think there are better non-permanent ways to express yourself, but she did that before my time so there wasn't much else to say there. She agreed with me that the tattoo was a bad idea and that she did actually regret it. I asked her if she was ever planning to get another tattoo and she said no. I said good because I didn't like them.
About a week ago, I saw that she was printing tattoo pictures and so I asked her about that. She said that her and her female friend were sorta planning on getting a small ankle tattoo together for my wife's birthday. She said she wanted to get it as a last hurrah because she now in her early 40's and is beginning to feel old. She wanted it to mark this time in her life.
I asked her if she didn't think that that was something that would've been discussed by the both of us. She said no because I knew you would just get mad anyway. That's the part that made me really upset. She was willing to get a tattoo behind my back and expected me to just live with it. I explained to her that part of the original agreement of being together depended on her not getting anymore tattoos. She explained that it is her body and that she can do whatever she wants with it. I tried to explain to her that I'm living this life with her too, and since we share this life, we should share that decision.
After thinking about it for a few days, I told her that we probably needed to go our separate ways. I told her that I never wanted to be a controlling type of guy and I know that she never wanted to feel controlled. However, I know that if she were to get that tattoo, I would truly resent her, and things would get ugly anyway. If I prevented her from getting that tattoo, I know she would resent me.
Well, she was devastated to hear me say that. She doesn't want to lose the house and the family we built together. But I really meant it. She can have all the tattoo's she wants, just not with me in the picture.
Is there a right or wrong here?
2 things....
I don't understand why it has to be something permanent like a tattoo. I could buy her a beautiful anklet! I'm a good guy, I'm not the jealous type, and I let her go out with her friends and she let's me go out with mine as well. However, I draw the line on tattoo's. At some point, she said that I could go with them to get it done. It made me feel sick when she said that.
Second thing, if she knew I couldn't stand tattoo's, why did she get with me? I asked her that question and she told me she thought she would never want another tattoo.
The tattoo means a lot more to me than just the superficial reason. It means disrespect. She's known how passionate I have always felt about them.
I know some people are wondering if I am really willing to throw away the last 10 years... isn't it a fair question to ask if SHE is willing to throw away the last years? Out of respect and love for me, she could find an alternate way to express herself.
I don't understand how I'm a jerk for standing up what I believe in. The day I found out she wanted one, I told her that she was probably going through a mid life and asked her to consider alternatives like jewelry etc. She said no. There was no other way but this tattoo. She put me in an incredibly difficult situation. If she has the right to make these changes to her body, then shouldn't I have the right to leave?
A. HHHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!! ALL the problems in this world, and you're worried about your wife's right ot put a small insignificant tattoo on her ankle without the permission and consent from her self appointed lord and master???? WTF is your problem? this is your WIFE, not a side of beef with a sell by date that you purchased at some livestock auction!!!
let her celebrate entering midlife for pete;s sakes! she could have told you she was screwing the sexy 25 yr old male cashier at costco, was the latest porn queen in her secret movie life, she could have told you she was dying of cancer, she could have told you she was having her nipples and clit pierced. but NOOOOOOOOOOOO.... YOU want to bytch over a one inch ink drawing on her ankle!
if YOU are prepared to dump this woman you have shared your life with for 10 yrs, profess to "love" and "respect" over something so small, stupid and trivial, then yes the best thing you can do for her is get the hell out of her life and give her to a REAL MAN who knows the meaning of "Integrity".
now go and get that prince albert ring on your d1ck that you're sorely in need of... because THATS the smallest thing around here.
add: oh for shytes sakes stop being such a sanctimonious pr1ck! "she is disrespecting you" by not obeying your orders???? WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? maybe she SHOULD come home with a bottle of wild turkey under her arm, a bag of weed and a bong, some crack and the hooker down the street, party it up with you until you pass out, then pierce and tattoo every part of your stupid body so you can wake up looking like a patchwork quilt with built in shower rings, seeing you want to be such a frigging drama queen!!!
MAYBE SHE SHOULD CELEBRATE MIDDLE AGE BY FORGETTING ABOUT THE TATTOO, AND TAKING THE TATTOO ARTIST AND HIS BUDDY OUT FOR THE NIGHT INSTEAD... THEN YOU WOULD HAVE REASON TO WHINE
YOU are not the one being given stupid, selfish, borderline iq ultimatums by her for a personal choice about somehting you wihs to do which will affect no one besides yourself, so don't try to pass the buck onto her for something YOU said and a threat YOU made, which is YOUR responsibility. if you can't walk the walk, THEN DON'T TALK THE TALK.
if i was her, i would take you up on it and tell you to go to hell and take off with the tattoo artist, seeing you're so willing to split 50% of all your assets, pay alimony and child support over your control freak "principals".
let her celebrate entering midlife for pete;s sakes! she could have told you she was screwing the sexy 25 yr old male cashier at costco, was the latest porn queen in her secret movie life, she could have told you she was dying of cancer, she could have told you she was having her nipples and clit pierced. but NOOOOOOOOOOOO.... YOU want to bytch over a one inch ink drawing on her ankle!
if YOU are prepared to dump this woman you have shared your life with for 10 yrs, profess to "love" and "respect" over something so small, stupid and trivial, then yes the best thing you can do for her is get the hell out of her life and give her to a REAL MAN who knows the meaning of "Integrity".
now go and get that prince albert ring on your d1ck that you're sorely in need of... because THATS the smallest thing around here.
add: oh for shytes sakes stop being such a sanctimonious pr1ck! "she is disrespecting you" by not obeying your orders???? WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? maybe she SHOULD come home with a bottle of wild turkey under her arm, a bag of weed and a bong, some crack and the hooker down the street, party it up with you until you pass out, then pierce and tattoo every part of your stupid body so you can wake up looking like a patchwork quilt with built in shower rings, seeing you want to be such a frigging drama queen!!!
MAYBE SHE SHOULD CELEBRATE MIDDLE AGE BY FORGETTING ABOUT THE TATTOO, AND TAKING THE TATTOO ARTIST AND HIS BUDDY OUT FOR THE NIGHT INSTEAD... THEN YOU WOULD HAVE REASON TO WHINE
YOU are not the one being given stupid, selfish, borderline iq ultimatums by her for a personal choice about somehting you wihs to do which will affect no one besides yourself, so don't try to pass the buck onto her for something YOU said and a threat YOU made, which is YOUR responsibility. if you can't walk the walk, THEN DON'T TALK THE TALK.
if i was her, i would take you up on it and tell you to go to hell and take off with the tattoo artist, seeing you're so willing to split 50% of all your assets, pay alimony and child support over your control freak "principals".
paul wesleys hair colour?
Q. i dyed my hair today but it went to dark so i am getting pre lighter tomorrow and hair dye but i dont know what colour code i need to get in like tescos or some where i want paul wesleys hair colour so links below, can u give me the name of the colour and the brand or even better the code please for tomorrow?
http://coolweakspot.wordpress.com/category/paul-wesley/
http://www.fanpop.com/clubs/paul-wesley/images/17113370/title/paul-wallpaper
http://www.fanpop.com/clubs/paul-wesley/images/28759665/title/paul-wesley-wallpaper
http://www.fanpop.com/clubs/dair-lovers/images/30609592/title/paul-wesley-daman-magazine-photo
http://coolweakspot.wordpress.com/category/paul-wesley/
http://www.fanpop.com/clubs/paul-wesley/images/17113370/title/paul-wallpaper
http://www.fanpop.com/clubs/paul-wesley/images/28759665/title/paul-wesley-wallpaper
http://www.fanpop.com/clubs/dair-lovers/images/30609592/title/paul-wesley-daman-magazine-photo
A. Overlapping dye onto previously colored hair is what creates dullness and dryness. If you color your hair @ home or salon, let your roots grow out as long as you can stand, so the line of demarcation is easier to spot. Only run color through the lengths for five minutes to refresh the ends. To extend the time between touch-ups, use a gloss and deep -conditioning treatments. They will help smooth cuticles roughed up by daily wear & tear, and the hair will look shinier. ~ Harry Josh, hairstylist of the celebrities.
Celebrity wears two-tone hair dye all the time, trying to grow out their dye. They call that the ombre style.
Style meets chemistry meets biology: We're talking hair coloring.
Playing with chemicals is not like playing with clothes, or doing a manicure, there are penalties for playing chemicals in the lab. Even hair color experts at the salon are not rocket scientists, they do a bang up dye jobs to their clients or their own hair.
Chemicals can enter the body through the skin.
> > > Hair dye chemicals linked to cancer
London, Feb 20, 2013 I've been saying that since 2009.
Hair dyes, which include home hair colouring kits and those used at pricey salons, are linked to deadly cancer-causing chemicals, warn scientists. In 2009 the Mail revealed that women who used hair dyes more than nine times a year had a 60% greater risk of contracting blood cancer.
A year later the European Commission banned 22 hair dyes which put long-term users at risk of bladder cancer. < < < <
Google: Teen 'feared she would die' after reaction to hair dye
The allergic reaction was caused by a well-known brand of semi-permanent hair dye Chloe used to turn her hair black for a Hallowe’en party. . . . . called for beauty bosses to ban hair dye chemical PPD (para-phenylenediamine) from the shelves. 11-04-11
The chemical is not new and is present in a number of brands of dark hair colours, acting to help adhere the dye to the hair so that it doesn't wash out. It’s made from coal tar and is used in both permanent and semi-permanent hair colours. It’s well-known to be a cause of serious allergic reactions -- including something called contact dermatitis which can lead to rashes, blisters, and open sores.
PPD is sometimes added to black henna tattoos and that using them is not safe. Allergic reactions usually begin within two to 10 days following application. One bad reaction can lead to sensitivities to other products such as hair dye, sunblock and some types of clothing dyes. Oftentimes, it's using the product a second or third time.
Google: A 38-year old mother left in a coma after using hair dye. SHE DYED HER HAIR MANY TIMES BEFORE, USING THE SAME BRAND. The British woman who went into coma after a reaction to hair dye has died after a year. Updated 11-25-12. The woman suffered a heart failure, struggled for breath and became unconsciousness. Her family blamed paraphenylenediamine, a chemical found in hair colour. Her family has now called for paraphenylenediamine to be banned from home dye kits. In 2000, a 38-year-old Indian-origin woman from Birmingham, Narinder Devi, died after an allergic reaction to hair dye.
Permanent black hair dye is linked to causing leukemia and lymphomas.
Google search: Salon hair dye horror stories. About 305,000 results (0.20 seconds) OR Google Salon Hair Dye Lawsuits. About 336,000 results (0.17 seconds) Dec. 2011
When it comes to hair care treatments, product use or visits to a salon or spa, the consumer must take responsibility to do their homework and be aware of all the risks involved.
Google: January Jones: "My Hair Is Falling Out In Clumps" 1-28-13 To quote Joni Mitchell, "you don't know what you got till your thick hair is gone.
Celebrity wears two-tone hair dye all the time, trying to grow out their dye. They call that the ombre style.
Style meets chemistry meets biology: We're talking hair coloring.
Playing with chemicals is not like playing with clothes, or doing a manicure, there are penalties for playing chemicals in the lab. Even hair color experts at the salon are not rocket scientists, they do a bang up dye jobs to their clients or their own hair.
Chemicals can enter the body through the skin.
> > > Hair dye chemicals linked to cancer
London, Feb 20, 2013 I've been saying that since 2009.
Hair dyes, which include home hair colouring kits and those used at pricey salons, are linked to deadly cancer-causing chemicals, warn scientists. In 2009 the Mail revealed that women who used hair dyes more than nine times a year had a 60% greater risk of contracting blood cancer.
A year later the European Commission banned 22 hair dyes which put long-term users at risk of bladder cancer. < < < <
Google: Teen 'feared she would die' after reaction to hair dye
The allergic reaction was caused by a well-known brand of semi-permanent hair dye Chloe used to turn her hair black for a Hallowe’en party. . . . . called for beauty bosses to ban hair dye chemical PPD (para-phenylenediamine) from the shelves. 11-04-11
The chemical is not new and is present in a number of brands of dark hair colours, acting to help adhere the dye to the hair so that it doesn't wash out. It’s made from coal tar and is used in both permanent and semi-permanent hair colours. It’s well-known to be a cause of serious allergic reactions -- including something called contact dermatitis which can lead to rashes, blisters, and open sores.
PPD is sometimes added to black henna tattoos and that using them is not safe. Allergic reactions usually begin within two to 10 days following application. One bad reaction can lead to sensitivities to other products such as hair dye, sunblock and some types of clothing dyes. Oftentimes, it's using the product a second or third time.
Google: A 38-year old mother left in a coma after using hair dye. SHE DYED HER HAIR MANY TIMES BEFORE, USING THE SAME BRAND. The British woman who went into coma after a reaction to hair dye has died after a year. Updated 11-25-12. The woman suffered a heart failure, struggled for breath and became unconsciousness. Her family blamed paraphenylenediamine, a chemical found in hair colour. Her family has now called for paraphenylenediamine to be banned from home dye kits. In 2000, a 38-year-old Indian-origin woman from Birmingham, Narinder Devi, died after an allergic reaction to hair dye.
Permanent black hair dye is linked to causing leukemia and lymphomas.
Google search: Salon hair dye horror stories. About 305,000 results (0.20 seconds) OR Google Salon Hair Dye Lawsuits. About 336,000 results (0.17 seconds) Dec. 2011
When it comes to hair care treatments, product use or visits to a salon or spa, the consumer must take responsibility to do their homework and be aware of all the risks involved.
Google: January Jones: "My Hair Is Falling Out In Clumps" 1-28-13 To quote Joni Mitchell, "you don't know what you got till your thick hair is gone.
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